Reflect · Questions I Ask Myself
Read it. Then sit with it.
Each exercise goes with a story from The Estate. Pick the one that sounds like your week. Most take ten to twenty minutes, and nothing you write here is sent anywhere.
Worksheet
Printable pages with space to write. Print them, or just use a notebook.
The Halfway Chair
A printable page for mapping what you carry in a week, and finding the one place you could let someone set down a chair for you.
Softened Three Times
A practical worksheet for people-pleasers — rewriting a real message so it says what you mean, without the three sorries.
Whose Life Is This?
Jordan’s five questions, set out as a printable page for anyone living a life that looks right but doesn’t feel like theirs.
The Call List
A printable call list — the people you’ve been meaning to ring, what you’d say, and when you’ll actually do it.
The Empty Chair Check
A simple weekly check for noticing who has gone quiet — and a few honest words for knocking, messaging or turning up.
My Ripple Map
Trace one kindness you received as far as it travelled, then plan one ripple of your own, with a seven-day tracker to print.
The Question You Ask
For the people who always check on everyone else — practising answering “Are you alright?” honestly, once.
Journalling
Prompts to write through, one honest line at a time.
The Honest Line
A journalling exercise for people who always say “I’m alright” — finding the first honest sentence, and one person to say it to.
Who’s the Race Against?
A journalling exercise for anyone who feels behind — swapping the scoreboard for a clearer look at where you already are.
Who’s On the Wall?
A reflection on belonging, respect and fear — and on the people sitting just outside the fence of your life, waiting to be asked in.
Sit with this
Quiet, guided pauses. Less writing, more noticing.
Walking the Long Way
A quiet exercise about the roads we avoid, the memories we route around, and whether today is a day for the short way or not.
The Sound You Avoid
A short “sit with this” for people who stay busy so they don’t have to hear the quiet — and what the quiet might be trying to say.
Samuel’s Three Questions
The three questions Samuel asks on the bench, slowed right down into a twelve-minute sit for when you’re stuck in the same pattern.
How to use these
Slowly. One at a time.
- Read the story first, if you can. The exercise will land differently.
- Write by hand if you can. Your notes app works too.
- Skip anything that doesn’t fit. There’s no score.
- If an exercise stirs up something heavy, stop. The support numbers are at the bottom of every page.
“Never ‘this is what you should think.’ Just: what do you think?”